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How to Deal With Grief and Loss
Psychologists have learned that most people experience similar thoughts and emo...
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Psychologists have learned that most people experience similar thoughts and emotions when confronted with loss. These have been named the Stages of Grief. Whether a grieving person proceeds through these stages in a set order or not, the different stages help us to work through our loss in a way that will help us to accept it and heal.
But we can't tuck messy emotions into neat little packages. The Stages of Grief are responses to loss that many people have. There is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives.
If you are trying to cope with a loss, these stages will help you to understand that, though painful and often confusing, what you are feeling is normal. When someone or something is wrested away from us forever, we suffer an acute emotional wound. Mentally, we must adjust to this trauma in stages because we cannot accommodate that much pain all at once. And so the process begins.
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What Is Co-Dependence?
Co-dependence is a learned behavior, rooted in shame, where the needs of others...
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Co-dependence is a learned behavior, rooted in shame, where the needs of others are chronically put before our own. The co-dependent lets others define who he is and sacrifices his own integrity to insure the emotional wellbeing of another. Co-dependents are caretakers and rescuers, controlling their outside world to obtain inner peace.
"Co-dependence" is just a new name for an old game. Professionals had long suspected that something peculiar happened to people who were closely involved with chemically dependent people. A physical, mental, emotional and spiritual condition similar to alcoholism seemed to appear in many non-alcoholic or non-chemically dependent people who were close to an alcoholic. Later it was learned that co-dependency was triggered through relationships with people who have serious illnesses, behavior problems, or destructive compulsive disorders. So even though alcoholism in the family helps create co-dependency, many other circumstances produce it also.
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Battling With Alcoholism
Alcoholism starts with loss of control. The person's behavior violates his valu...
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Alcoholism starts with loss of control. The person's behavior violates his values, causing remorse, which then triggers denial. Because of denial, there is unresolved emotional pain. This sequence occurs many, many times and ultimately results in chronic emotional pain. The alcoholic must drink to feel normal.
It would seem, then, that in recovery from alcoholism, there is more to address than just the drinking.
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Female Chauvanist Pigs
I graduated from high school in 1970, when the only requirement for graduation ...
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I graduated from high school in 1970, when the only requirement for graduation was a beating pulse. Everyone graduated from high school. You didn't even have to know how to read!
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Blended Families
Every year on the Sunday before Christmas we get together at my mom's house for...
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Every year on the Sunday before Christmas we get together at my mom's house for what we call our "Dysfunctional Family Christmas."
Are we a "blended" family?
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Stressed For Success: The Working Mother
My first child was born in 1982, when the "Mommy Wars" were at full throttle, a...
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My first child was born in 1982, when the "Mommy Wars" were at full throttle, and I struggled to figure out where I fit in. "Having it all" was our mantra, but the reality was that if you DID have it all, you wanted to give some of it back! That is, unless you were the CEO of Xerox Corporation and could afford to hire a nanny, a chauffer, a nurse, a housekeeper, a cook, a tutor, and a crisis counselor to do what we ordinary working mothers were called upon to do every day.
Those were The Dark Ages for secretaries, sales clerks, waitresses, bank tellers, mail carriers and nurses' aides; in other words, for the greatest percentage of working mothers. For us, the "glass ceiling" was beyond our range of vision.
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Finding Mr. Right After 50
I met my husband and love my life five years ago through online dating. When * ...
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I met my husband and love my life five years ago through online dating. When * Sam and I first connected, I was a "basket case," recently separated and divorcing my husband of 21 years. I had no idea how to date in the new millennium or how to date, period!
In the beginning, I joined several dating web sites and began going on dates with different divorced men my age. (I had a lot of Starbucks' coffees and a lot of dinners.) I found that some of the men had not been entirely honest on their profiles and others were not my type at all. (To be honest, I had "bent the truth" somewhat on my profile also.) There were men who seemed to only be interested in finding sex, and some were newly divorced and just wanted to marry any warm-blooded, available woman. I needed more than that if I was ever going to get serious about a man ever again.
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Coping With Depression
There are two main types of depression:
1. Situational Depression; and
2. Cl...
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There are two main types of depression:
1. Situational Depression; and
2. Clinical Depression.
Situational depression is the kind that develops after something bad happens, say the death of a loved one or the loss of a job. Of course you're depressed! Who wouldn't be? Situational depression is short term and usually lasts from two weeks to three months. Sometimes it just goes away on its own, and other times counseling is needed.
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Emotional Management
All of us struggle with managing anger. Here are some common ways that anger is...
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All of us struggle with managing anger. Here are some common ways that anger is expressed:
1. Some people let their anger build up until one day it explodes over a relatively minor event. Because it is suppressed, the anger becomes Mount Vesuvius ready to erupt, and when conditions are right, she blows her top!
2. Other people express their displeasure as an ongoing process; hence, the world's nitpickers.
3. The ones to worry about, though, are the people who are passive-aggressive in expressing anger. They are soft-spoken and smile a lot. They seem to be dripping with compliance. But when they "stick it to you," it catches you off guard because you don't see it coming.
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Is "Having It All" Really Just a Myth?
Some women "have it all," but would like to give some of it back. (resubmitted...
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Some women "have it all," but would like to give some of it back. (resubmitted -- switched from Helium to Associated Content)
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Dealing With Disappointment
How do you deal with disappointment? Do you retreat to a place of safety and i...
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How do you deal with disappointment? Do you retreat to a place of safety and isolate? This article will help you gain perspective and get back in the game.
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Family Secrets -- Most Families Are Not What They Seem
It would appear that families are what they seem, but most often they are not. ...
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It would appear that families are what they seem, but most often they are not. Every family has secrets that greatly impact its emotional health and personality. A family could have witnessed or experienced a trauma, and it was simply never talked about again because there had been an unspoken vow of silence. Some family secrets are generational, and others victimize someone in the family. The secret could be about something legal or reflect a law that was broken. Some feelings are repressed, consciously or unconsciously, while others are acted out by the children in a family for generations.
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The Disease Model of Addiction
If I went to my doctor with a set of symptoms, no one would question the fact t...
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If I went to my doctor with a set of symptoms, no one would question the fact that I was sick. No one would impose a moral judgment on me for having those symptoms, and I wouldn't be viewed as a law breaker for being ill. But many people reject the idea of addiction as a disease and view the chemically dependent person as a social deviant.
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You Can Recover From Alcoholism
Alcoholism is a disease shrouded in stigma and misunderstanding. Learn what it...
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Alcoholism is a disease shrouded in stigma and misunderstanding. Learn what it is and how to recover from it. This article is for the alcoholic and those who love him.
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